Archive | February, 2010

Seven Secrets To a Rich and Successful Life

27 Feb

Seven Secrets To A Rich and Successful Life

1. Positivity

Be positive in all you do, all you think and all you say. Be careful what you tell yourself, your inner voice is often the most influential. Take time to consider your thoughts and feelings. These tell you how you are affected by the world around you. Control your actions by learning to focus on positive thoughts everyday. This takes time and practice, but is worth every minute.

2. Negativity

Remove negative aspects of your life. If friends or family members provide unconstructive criticism, ignore this advice. Block out your own negative voice, problems with self-confidence and replace with positive thoughts. Try to avoid using excuses, either to yourself or spoken outloud to others. Above all else, ban the word ‘can’t’.

3. Get Inspired

Read inspiring books by authors in a field that interests you greatly. Watch films that will cause a stir in your beliefs, research your choices carefully. I can recommend several great films to make a difference in your life. Consider a lifecoach to help with your success planning and to evaluate your progress to obtaining the happiness you deserve.

4. Environmental Factors

Surround yourselves with people who have qualities you aspire to. For example, if you desire riches, work in a high-end market in business, move to the best house or flat you can afford in an area you know to be affluent. This will have the effect of raising your standards and, before you know it, you’ll be earning the riches you surround yourself with.

5. Passion

Focus on something that you are passionate about. Whether a job, business, sport or family, do what makes you happy and tell the world about your passion. You never know where this may take you, humans are drawn to passionate people and listen to sincere advice from experts in their chosen field. Instead of chasing money, let your enthusiasm for a subject you love lead you to riches.

6. Your Plan

Make a clear list of your life goals and break these down into yearly achievements to aim for. Create a plan with quantitifiable and specific targets, implement this plan and make continued commitment to all it entails. Develop a strategy to help you pick yourself up when life throws you off course. Everyone has a bad day or troubled chapter, this is when trusted friend, supportive family and a mental strength can keep you focused on success. Commitment, dedication and determination are essential for a rich and successful life.

7. The Power Of A Smile

Smile. Everyday, when alone, to friends, and to strangers in the street. Sounds simple but oh so effective. Remember, you get one shot at life so make the most of your talents, gifts and passions. You have the power to create the life of your dreams, a smile will make this all the more easy!

The above seven secrets have enabled me to work towards a rich and successful life. This means different things for different people. ‘Riches’ does not simply apply to financial rewards. Effective relationships, a happy family, a fulfilling career; these are all aspects to add richness to your life.

To be successful is to achieve your goals in life, personally, professionally and psychologically.

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Inspiration and Idols

26 Feb

Women in sport intrigue me. When pushing your body to it’s limit, how does this make you strong mentally, what lessons do you learn about yourself and how can you apply this knowledge to other challenges in life?

Two women who inspire me:


Chrissie Wellington.

For those who don’t k now, Chrissie is three time world champion Ironman. In an interview, Chrissie expressed how women with body issues depress her. Her mission is to inspire others to unlock their hidden sporting talents.

“The gender boundaries that exist in other sports don’t exist in triathlon. And I love that.” Chrissie always portrays an image of positivity, smiling, enjoying her job, never complaining. How many people do you know like that? I can think of 2 or 3 and they never fail to make me smile. Surrounding yourself with optimistic people really does have a profound influence on your own well-being.

Chrissie has recently become patron of the Jane Tomlinson Appeal, which leads on to my next inspiring woman.


Jane Tomlinson

“Jane raised over £1.85million through a series of gruelling challenges including several long-distance bike rides, marathons, triathlons and a full Ironman triathlon. Since her death the charity that she founded has announced a new fundraising target of £5million.” Wikipedia

Marathons and triathlons are part of my life, therefore I relate to Jane’s focus on these athletic challenges. I think of Jane whenever on a particularly difficult run or race, each thought of Jane’s strength against such adversity propels my legs further.

 These are just two women who I aspire to. Many of my friends and family cause me to stop and question a natural instinct to think negatively. I cannot stress enough the important of keeping inspiring figures in mind and surrounding yourself with the kind of person you’d like to be. In my case, this doesn’t necessarily mean world-class athletes, but local triathletes and friends, business people, those who have achieved in life or those working towards success.

Simple, but effective!

Hole in My Heart

25 Feb

Watch the video below - it’s release is spookily relevant to my life at the moment!

Hole in my Heart

A cheesy, Alphabeat tune, but made me laugh when  I heard it on the radio. Do you know those moments when coincidence catches you by surprise. This is one of those moments for me.

Music has always been a huge influence on my life, as it does for many. Whether a positive period or difficult chapter in my life, music always tells the story. The song above played on the radio a couple of weeks after I was diagnosed with a hole in my heart. Just a simple coincidence that made me laugh. Funny how circumstances makes you more aware of certain phrases or a little more sensitive to comments from others.

With any kind of bad news, it’s important not to dwell on the negative aspects. I have been through a range of emotions very quickly, starting with humour, moving to sadness, then anger and now determination. With anything, positivity is VITAL to remain both mentally and physically strong. Fair enough, if you get battered down continually, it’s increasingly difficult to pick yourself. This is all the more reason to get a strategy in place for mental strength during the tough times.

My strategy is my focus on races – running and triathlon. I have entered three races this year and although I won’t be able to do the London Marathon in April as a result on my heart problem, I fully intend to compete in two triathlons later in the year. My support system includes writing about my feelings (e.g on here, in a diary), speaking to trusted friends and family and focusing on what I CAN do rather than what I CAN’T (remember this word is banned!).

So it might sound dramatic – a hole in the heart requiring surgery – but I remain positive. In some ways, I’m almost grateful as the time spent having hospital tests and consultations has given me new insight into my life. The break in training has meant I can step back and review what it is I really want. And that is, to help others, to motivate those who think they’ll never achieve. I also want to help myself achieve my goals in life, whatever is thrown at me.

To Be A Winner

22 Feb

Watch this video to consider the importance of winning, competition and personal achievement.


I recently met Dave Scott at the TCR show in Surrey. Listening to him impart his wisdom on the subject on triathlon inspired me to watch footage of his famous race with Mark Allen in the 1989 Ironman World Championships. You may think, how can this teach me about life? You may not be interested in triathlon or any kind of sport. But there are definite lessons to be learnt from those who push themselves to the limit.

As a six time world champion, Dave Scott had to defend his tittle in Hawaii, the Tour de France / World Cup equivalent in triathlon. Mark Allen, his competition ended up taking the title, after a neck and neck race. As you will see on the video, and from meeting Dave live, he shows no bitterness towards his rival, no regrets. Why? He gave his all, did his best. What more can you humanly do.

Whatever you aim for, give it your all. How many times can you honestly say you have done this? When did you last put your heart into something to the point where you literally gave blood, sweat and tears? Sounds a cliche, but it’s true.

Personal achievement is what matters, over competition. Winning is a state of mind. Only you can decide if you deserve to take the title.

To end with, memorise this statement and repeat to yourself every day:

To get something you’ve never had, you must do something you have never done.

Ban A Word

21 Feb

So often I hear this word from close friends and family. I confess to being guilty of using the word when at my lowest. We all do. What is this word? Can’t.

Of all frustrating habits in life, a lack of self-believe is perhaps the most destructive. To believe you cannot achieve, is setting you up to fail.

Excuses for the word ‘Can’t’ include: you don’t want to, you are afraid of failing, you rather do something else, something easier, you lack belief in your ability, others have knocked your confidence or pride. The list could go on and on.

Make a simple but powerful change today. Ban the word ‘can’t’. I have suggested this with a friend today, during a run. Despite momentous achievement to date with marathon training, my friend still believes she ‘can’t do it’. My speculation suggests she fears failure, lacks self-confidence. My experience of running with my friend and through my own running, tells me she CAN do a marathon. The simplicity of pschologically encouraging your body to achieve is extraordinary.

I have made it my mission to ban the word ‘can’t’ from my own life and from those close to me. Through this, I hope to open people’s minds to the power of positive thinking.

Prioritising Daily Tasks

19 Feb

How to separate the tasks in daily life into ‘Urgent’ and ‘Important’.

One of my major frustrations in life is not achieving all I’d like to in 24 hours. This is one of the reasons I spend a lot of time writing lists, working into the early hours of the morning, or ‘having words with myself’ for not reaching my targets for the day. Does this sound familiar?

Over the last few years, I have read the work of many authors on topics on self help, earning money, the secrets to success etc. One underlying theme is how to motivate yourself, make a plan and implement this plan. Action, not procrastination is what is required to achieve anything in life, be it aerobic fitness, a toned body, mental well-being, weight loss, specific life goals or financial rewards.

Keep a Diary

How I go about achiving my long list of ‘new year resolutions’ is to use a daily, weekly, monthly and annual strategy. I keep a separate diary purely for noting these strategies.

Commit to writing a list of aims for the year

Commitment is required to firstly make a list of what is most important to you. From this list, you can work out achievement dates by which you can tick each item off over the year. Then, each month, you can review your progress and make the necessary improvements. Weekly, you can keep a tally of what you have done to achieve  your overall life aims and daily, you can have a ‘to do’ list that is subsinct and relevant.

Break down aims into managable tasks

Some of your life aims may seem dream-like, impossible to achieve. By breaking down a dream into monthly, weekly and daily tasks, each step appears less daunting. How does a person go from a ten minute jog to completing 26.2 miles in a marathon? Run by run, week by week, commitment to a training plan and motivated by the desire to achieve a momentous life goal.

To give you an example of a year’s strategy, here are my aims for 2010 (as listed on 1st January):

  •  A specific profit in my business by helping others
  • Run the London Marathon in Sub 4 hours
  • Complete 3 triathlons
  • Have my teeth whitened
  • Commit to triathlon club sessions weekly
  • Run on the track twice a month
  • Run a local 5k, 10k and half marathon
  • Swim twice weekly until April, then 3-4 times a week during Spring/Summer
  • Attend triathlon club swim once a month
  • Improve confidence in open water swimming by going to group sessions
  • Turbo train on my road bike twice weekly until April then 4 cycle sessions during tri season
  • Become confident using SPD pedals by riding in a group and with Damon
  • Try cross country skiing and / or go rollerskiing again to improve technique
  • Have a summer break to escape work / the business and to relax
  • Have a sports massage as often as necessary
  • Buy a new car, ideally a Range Rover or VW Transporter van
  • Begin my lifecoach qualification and study

This may appear a long list of objections, some may be easy to achieve, some may fall by the wayside. This does not matter. All that is important when creating a list is considering what is most important to you at your current stage in life. It may seem that my aims are very biased to my sport and fitness goals, however, this is what is important to me now, at the age of 27, when I have no commitments other than being successful in all I do. You may notice my aims are quantifiable – all have a specific number involved. This helps to keep aims in focus, disallowing broad, sweeping statements such as ‘I want to get fit’, ‘I want to lose weight’, ‘I would like to be happier’. The alternatives to these sweeping statements would be, ‘I aim to run a 5k by June’, ‘Lose 10lbs by September’, ‘Enrol on a self-confidence course and dedicate 2 hours a week to recording my progress’.

What would truly make you happy if you achieved it all within a year? I can honestly say I had the best year of my life in 2009, I achieved nearly all of my objectives. Here’s how.

Urgent Versus Important

 Break down your daily tasks into these headings, either first thing in the morning, or last thing at night when planning the following day. These daily tasks include anything work related, any exercise you have planned in, any time working towards your year goals.

Urgent – these are tasks that HAVE to be done, for example, sending that email to a client, speaking to your boss about an appraisal, taking the kids to their swimming lesson, eating, sleeping, a half-hearted gym session with a friend. These tasks take over our daily life, making us feel eternally busy, ever-tired.

Important - these tasks are ESSENTIAL when working towards your annual aims. Examples in my life include: writing this blog, drafting ideas for a future business for an hour, writing an email or letter that you have been putting off, attending an exercise session and giving your all, signing up for a race and commiting to it, creating a healthy eating or exercise plan for the week, booking an important appointment such as beauty, dentist, physiotherapist. If you had all the time in the world to purely focus on your life goals, what would you do? Ask yourself this and jot down a few answers. During this week, allocate some of these tasks into your daily routine. By prioritising, nobody is too busy to achieve in life, everybody, at some point, uses excuses to hide from  or justify a lack of success.

Without constant monitoring, it is very easy to give all our attention to urgent tasks. To achieve our ambitions, the emphasis must be on completing the important jobs. The urgent tasks will always be there but it is the important jobs that will make the difference in your life.

In summary, when prioritising your daily task, make sure you choose important tasks over urgent. This will enable you to slowly but surely achieve all you desire.

Problem Shared, Problem Solved!

17 Feb

A Starting Point – 17th February 2010

This, my first post, was intended to be a positive starting point for my philosophy in self development, in simple terms. However, due to my current life circumstances, I am starting with a case study – me! I have listed 12 worries or problems significant to me today and followed this with an action plan on how to resolve them.

My aims for this blog:

  • Help you understand the basics of self development
  • Encourage exercise at all levels, from beginner to advanced and encorporating this into daily life
  • Nutrition and Diet  – what I have learnt so far
  • Overcoming barriers in life

A little about me:

I am always changing, restless, ambitious, motivated and indecisive. I am a contradiction in everything I do. I started life as a midlands girl, dreaming of becoming an actress in London. At school, I misbehaved and got considerably lower grades that I should have.  I also developed a love for earning money, selling Avon cosmetics to anyone who’d listen and working endless shifts in a residential home around my schoolwork and partying.

Life carried me to university in the North and a career as a nurse. During this time, I started property developing with my partner Damon. We appeared on Channel 4′s Property Ladder in 2005. We went on to start a chocolate fountain business, travelling the country attending markets, large shows and weddings. This business continue to grow, and continued to cause me stress!

I then studied to become a midwife on the South Coast and loved being by the sea. The chocolate fountains were still going well and my life in 2006-2008 consisted of university work, hospital shifts, agency nursing, fountain bookings every weekend. 

The financial rewards of the above work finally started to pay off and in 2008, we moved to Poole, Dorset. My recent achievements include 3 marathons, 2 triathlons, successful online business, 2 degrees and helping several friends achieve a specific aim in their life.

So, moving on to the 12 current worries in my life:

1. I feel as if I am not getting anywhere with my work on a daily basis. Action: Act on Important tasks before Urgent! I will expain this in a later post.

2. I don’t feel my actions are as useful as they should be to move us forward. Action: Act on more Important tasks.

3. I am worried about finances and accounts issues. Action: speak with accountant, create master plan for April.

4. I worry over mistakes I have made recently with some bills. Action: Pay bill, speak with accountant!

5. I fear having to nurse again, as this is something I would like to  leave at this stage. Action: stick out with our current work plans until April then reveiw.

6. I worry about physical signs of stress that are showing! Action: Address health problems, ignore stress.

7. I am not in control of mundane tasks such as housework, shopping, sorting bills, filing etc. Action: 30 minutes of housework everyday.

8. I have concerns over a recent diagnosis of a hole in my heart. Action: chase up hospital next week regarding results and plan.

9. Guilt about not keeping up with my triathlon and marathon training as a result of my heart and worries. Action: attend triathlon club swims and track sessions, gym, turbo trainer and  slow runs.

10. Our new business project – photobooths. We are behind schedule on everything! Action: Prioritise this project above others.

11. Another business project – training course for online marketing, we are yet to take purposeful action on our developed ideas. Action: Prioritise this project for completion of task daily.

12. Several people who have either hurt or annoyed me recently.  Action: hand over communication to others.

So in essence, my action plans focus on:

  1. Prioritising daily tasks or projects
  2. Ignoring minor worries, taking decisive action on major concerns
  3. Careful planning, daily, weekly, monthly and long term.
  4. Persistence in implementing plans
  5. Little and often with health and fitness aims, one step at a time

Earlier today, I felt completely bogged down with worries of all description. Writing down these worries and creating logical, practical resolutions enabled me to let go of minor trouble and take action!